Turn off your phone for More Happiness

I hope 2017 is treating everyone well!

While I do not necessarily believe in blatant resolutions, I do believe in self-improvement and self-discovery. For so many years of my life, I have been hard on myself. I always had to get the best grade, I always had to have the best job, I always had to be the best daughter, sister, girlfriend, etc. Frankly- it was exhausting. I found that I was simply just trying too hard. I tried yoga and I tried meditation, but my mind was never really at peace. I would always compare myself and think about the things that I just didn’t have. How toxic is that?

I learned to focus on the things that I DO have and to take a step back once in a while. That means shutting off my phone for a few hours each day. I started doing this and I found that I was less inclined to visit social media which would make me less sad because I was not comparing myself anymore. I enjoyed the reality of life more and I explored the world.

While I am still a work in progress (like we all are), I am finding ways to ease my stress and to simply let go and BE HAPPY. Life is way to short to be anything else!

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Start the New Year out Right

I hope everyone had a fantastic holiday season! Where did 2016 go? How is it a new year already?!

This past year has been a real whirlwind. I’ve  had my good times, I’ve had my bad times and I had moments that I wish I could re-live forever! I even created a new endeavor- I want to travel to all 50 states during my lifetime. I have completed the entire east coast thus far and I’m planning some trips out west for the new year.

Throughout the year, I have realized that time keeps progressing, but we have to make sure that we make the most of it. We only have one life, why not live to our fullest? This means getting rid of grudges, avoiding negative thoughts and staying away from people and ideals that simply do not serve us.

It’s about time we free our minds and quit worrying so much. While I am not a fan of New Years resolutions, I am a fan of working towards our better selves on a daily basis. This does not have to come around solely on January 1st!

Here’s to love, laughter and positivity!

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Think Happy: Instant Peptalks to Boost Positivity

When dealing with life, there are often highs, lows and moments in between. Within the book, Think Happy, the author, Karen Salmansohn uses her creativity to develop peptalks for people whenever they need a little support or extra oomph in their lives.

As described in the book, there have been many studies which have proven that positive affirmations can play a significant role in the way that a person lives his or her life. When those affirmations are constantly repeated, they can impact behavior and the sense of self. The great thing about these peptalks is the fact that they can be read anytime and anywhere. Instead of using typical affirmations, the author focuses on peptalks because they are catchier and they can be convincing in a logical manner.

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Once I started reading this book, I just could not put it down. Personally, I carry it with me everywhere I go and I open it to read a peptalk whenever I’m in the mood. One of my favorite peptalks mentions the following:

“Good news: If you can drive yourself crazy, you can drive yourself happy. It’s all about which thoughts you choose to think. Wherever thoughts go is where you drive yourself. When you realize how thoughts work like steering wheels, you’re more likely to mindfully steer clear of negative thinking.”

Take a chance and pick up this book today. It will lift your spirits and help you become more aware and thankful within your own life!

 

Disclaimer: I received the book from Blogging for Books for this review.

5 Healthy Reasons to Take a Vacation

We’ve all been there. Life gets too busy and we claim that we can’t take a vacation. Even if you cannot afford to go to a luxurious place, why not make the most of what you have? Take a road trip and go sight seeing. Simply getting your mind off of your crazy, hectic daily life can work wonders for your mind, body and soul.

Here are five healthy reasons to take your own version of a vacation today!

  1. Vacation helps to get rid of the rut and stress you may find yourself in on a daily basis
  2. Getaways can refresh your mind, especially if you take the time to slightly disconnect from electronics. There is a whole world out there! Go explore it!
  3. Immersing yourself in a new experience can help you to gain knowledge and in turn you can share a plethora of information with others
  4. There is a strong possibility that you will remain more focused when you return to work because you have given your body relaxation time
  5. Your happiness level is bound to increase as long as you practice quality mindfulness!

Speaking of vacations, I spent my weekend in glorious Miami.

Prior to the short getaway, I felt like I needed a much needed break. Each night I simply felt drained and my inspiration levels were decreasing as the days progressed. Right now, I feel refreshed and energized because I took time away from emails, stress factors and other tidbits that were simply unnecessary.

According to Brendand Burchard, “You have a clean slate every day you wake up. You have a chance every single morning to make that change and be the person you want to be. You just have to decide to do it. Decide today’s the day. Say it. This is going to be my day.”

 

Anita Haridat, Ph.D

 

5 Things Successful People Do Differently

How do you define the word “success”? To some, being successful means obtaining large sums of money. To others, being successful means that there is an ability to change the world. Can it actually be subjective? Regardless of what your definition is, it may be important to understand that people are not necessarily born with success. In fact, most of the people that we admire who have gained a plethora of success throughout the years had to work extremely hard, however what did they do differently? I have been taking the time to study people such as Oprah Winfrey, Steve Jobs and Brendan Burchard. From just a small culmination of my research, here is what I found out:

  1. There is a focus on being productive, not being busy.
  2. They understand that life is not perfect
  3. They try to make continuous improvements in a small way
  4. Progress is measured and tracked
  5. They associate with people who are focused and like minded

This is just the icing on the cake, but take these tips in and it may make a difference for you!

 

Anita Haridat, Ph.D

 

Easter, Springtime and the Present Moment

For all of those who are celebrating, Happy Easter!

I adore the color of some of the Easter displays throughout the stores. Growing up, although my family and I did not celebrate the holiday religiously, we did receive Easter baskets which were always fun treats.

Here is a small one that I put together this year! I love the decorative pencils and the erasers are absolutely adorable.

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The beginning of this holiday reminds me of springtime, flowers and pastels all around. People are just a little more chipper and the air seems fresh. Why don’t we take the time to look around and take in our surroundings? Let’s look at the present moment and remember that we are here. We are not sitting in our past and we are not thinking about 5 years from now. We are here, in this moment- exactly where we should be.

Have a wonderful week, everyone!
“If you want peace, be peaceful. If you want something new, be different. If you want joy, be kind. Be what you want!” – Robert Holden

 

 

Anita Haridat, Ph.D

4 Things We Should Start Making Time for Again

In the hustle and bustle of 2016, people seem just too busy for life. Why is that?

Life seems like a never ending process of tasks, some with soft deadlines, and others with rigid deadlines. And here’s the thing- they just keep piling up. Who even has the time to breathe anymore? What happened to the good old days when people walked outside and savored the crisp air? Or sat down on a park bench and watched the colors of the delicate winter sky? We’re in such a rush these days, that it can actually be unhealthy.

I decided to sit down and think about the things that make me happy. And no- I’m not talking about my IPhone or Ipad or whatever other technological devices we’re glued to. I’m talking about the simple things. Take a look:

 
1. Hard copy books. I’m all for reading on a tablet, but there’s something about flipping through those hard copy books that makes the experience justifiably real. I want to hear the pages turn and I want to be able to scribble notes if I have to.

 

2. Making phone calls just to say hi. For the most part, most people I know simply send over a text message if they want to see how another person is doing. What happened to picking up the phone and hearing an actual voice? Have we strayed so far from human interaction that is seems unheard of?
3. Writing letters. When I was younger, my best friend and I used to hand write letters to each other when we didn’t have time to catch up in-between classes. Until this day, I have a box of her handwritten letters and I cherish them more as the days go on. Just for the hell of it, write a letter to a loved one, scribble down a note for your family member or write down a list of goals for yourself on a piece of paper. We know that technology is useful and very convenient, but having it all down on paper shows a sense of authenticity.

 

4. Savoring silence. When we look at pre-industrialized society, many people took the time to sit and enjoy life when all of their work was done. Make a cup of tea or grab some lemonade and take at least 10 minutes out of your day to sit and unwind. This is the only life we have and if we don’t take the time to enjoy it now- when can we?
If you have any other tips that you would like to share, don’t hesitate to leave a message! Have a great week!

 

Anita Haridat, Ph.D